For many people, the idea of a planning a funeral is overwhelming. Perhaps remembering the somber events of their childhood — where they sat in stiff clothing, unsure of what to say and afraid of doing the wrong thing — they put off even thinking about funerals until suddenly they are faced with an immediate need.
At that point, it can become a stressful situation during an already difficult time.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s funerals are often more like life-honoring celebrations than the formal events of the past.
You can plan a tribute to your loved one that honors the life that was lived, and helps friends and family members begin to heal. Your funeral director will know just how to help you, but here are some points to consider:
- Think about what made your loved one unique. If this person had a particularly meaningful job, that can be incorporated into the service, but much of your inspiration can come from your loved one’s musical tastes, hobbies, favorite movies, cherished mementos and so on.
- Consider the tone your loved one would have enjoyed. Some people want their funerals to be solemn affairs, while others want an air of celebration. Some want readings of favorite texts, and some want a room filled with music. If you’re planning the service, you probably knew this person better than most. Picture your loved one in the room and ask yourself if he or she would be enjoying the service.
- Involve the people who matter most. Family members may have their own ideas about how they’d like to be involved. Although the ideas presented to the funeral director should be unified, it doesn’t hurt to take suggestions as you’re making a plan about how people can participate in the service.
- Find out about signature services offered by the funeral home. Sometimes, you can find the perfect gesture to make the service truly memorable. Perhaps it’s a DVD tribute or a dove release. Maybe it’s the type of vehicle that takes your loved one to the cemetery. Maybe it’s cremation jewelry that the family will treasure or an American flag in a case, to honor a veteran. Talk to your funeral director about what they have to offer, and choose a funeral home that meets your needs.
- Consider preplanning for yourself. One way to alleviate the stress of planning a funeral is to plan it yourself in advance! Preplanning allows you to create the life-honoring tribute you’d like, and ensures that your family members will know how to carry out your wishes.
At Evergreen Mortuary, we believe a funeral should be a loving event that celebrates the choices your loved one made and the relationship you shared, while honoring the memory of a life well lived. Call us today at (520) 399-6652 to learn more about all we have to offer, or drop by for a visit to see our beautiful property.