Grieving a Loss: There’s No Expiration Date for Pain
Losing a loved one is never easy, and grief is different for every person who has suffered a loss. Although there are some commonalities, no one can truly know what someone else is going through, so no one can really predict when the pain will lessen. Some people “bounce back” quickly, while for others, the healing process takes a long time.
- It’s important to refrain from telling someone that it’s time to move on or get over it. There’s no timetable for grief, and everyone’s recovery time is different. Some people start to feel better in a matter of weeks or months, while for others the bereavement period can go on for years. When you set a deadline for someone in mourning, it doesn’t help that person to learn to live through the loss. It’s insensitive, and it ignores the fact that grief often resurfaces on birthdays, holidays and other special days.
- Sometimes grief changes instead of resolving. Life will never go back to normal for someone who has suffered a loss. It just becomes a new normal because the grief never goes away completely. It can shift, though, as a person learns to treasure the memories that used to be painful. By cherishing their loved one’s memory and honoring the legacy of the life that was lived, they’re able to set their grief aside and move forward.
- What to do when grief becomes a cause for concern . Sometimes, people experience what’s known as complicated grief. When that happens, they become stuck in their pain, unable to function practically. Grief becomes a lifestyle, and the person may lash out in anger or have difficulty eating and sleeping. If you or someone you love seems to be experiencing complicated grief, it may be time to seek professional help.
If you can’t seem to get past your grief, our support team can help. We’re always there for you, no matter what time of day or day of the week you need us. Online, you’ll find counseling services, group grief support and interactive videos. We can also provide aftercare for those who have suffered a loss, and help to find a support group or counselor. Visit us online or call (520) 399-6652 to learn how we can help.