Coping with Sudden Loss
There is never an instance in which losing a loved one is easy, but when a death occurs suddenly, there is an extra layer of confusion, shock, and sadness that you have to process. Anytime you lose a loved one, it is important to reach out for grief support to help you during this difficult time, and that is especially true in the case of a sudden loss. Here are some things that you need to know if you are faced with the abrupt loss of a loved one.
Your feelings are normal.
The way you feel after losing a loved one suddenly is normal. The way you feel about the loss may change from day to day, or even hour to hour, and that is OK as well. After a loss, some people feel profound sadness that makes them unable to cope with their everyday activities. Some people feel anger at their loved one for leaving them. Other people try to avoid the loss and throw themselves into work or another distraction. All of these feelings and behaviors are normal. Your way of working through grief is your own, and it can’t be replicated or judged by anyone else.
You have a right to feel cheated.
There is no good way to lose a loved one, but it is natural to feel like you were cheated out of the chance to say goodbye. There is evidence that people who lose a loved one to a prolonged illness experience some of their grieving before the person is gone, so the period after the loss is different than it is for those who lose a loved one unexpectedly. You have a right to feel angry or frustrated that you were robbed of that opportunity.
You have support.
You are never alone when you are coping with grief. There are support groups that are specifically for people who experienced sudden loss that could be helpful. Counseling may also help you understand your feelings. When you need help, ask for it.
After the tragic death of a loved one, Evergreen Mortuary & Cemetery can provide the assistance you need to plan funeral services and make decisions about burial and cremation. We also offer extensive grief support services in Tucson. You can reach our funeral home at (520) 888-7470.