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Flowers on Graves: Beautifying a Loved One's Final Resting Place

Are you responsible for the upkeep of a loved one’s grave? Most cemeteries have groundskeepers, but they’re often only responsible for mowing and repairs. In that case, any flowering plants or beautification of an individual gravesite is up to family members or volunteers. Even if the cemetery is well maintained, it doesn’t hurt to beautify a loved one’s final resting place.

It’s important to check with the cemetery regarding rules, but it’s often possible to plant flowers on the grave. There may be restrictions on what you’re allowed to plant, as well as rules about maintenance, but if you get clearance, many types of flowers are a good fit for a gravesite.

  • Geraniums are a good choice because they’re bright and cheerful. Hardy and easy to maintain, they are available in a wide selection of colors. To keep them blooming, clip the spent flower heads. If the gravesite is in a warm climate, be aware that the geraniums might grow large and obscure the headstone.

  • Chrysanthemums require minimal maintenance and tend to be cold-hardy. They can be left in the ground, and they’ll return the next growing season; the primary maintenance required is deadheading blossoms and cutting back plant stems at the end of the season. Bonus: there are many types of chrysanthemums, so you can plant different ones and have blooms year-round.

  • Roses are beautiful but require some work. Most cemeteries will allow the planting of roses on a gravesite because maintenance workers can easily work around them. However, the workers generally won’t prune roses, so if you plant one, make sure you have time in your schedule to come back and tend it.

  • Wildflowers can be an easy way to add color. One of the benefits of wildflowers is that they reseed and bloom yearly, but it should be noted that some flowers that aren’t considered wildflowers will do the same thing. Annuals such as marigolds, salvia, zinnias and cosmos will come back each year for many years.

  • Daylilies are a good option because they don’t require much care. They’re very prolific growers, so unless you want them to spread over a large area, it’s best to have a border to contain them.

  • Low-spreading flowers that can handle frequent mowing are a great choice. Flowering rhyme, Roman chamomile, and some varieties of ajuga are colorful seasonal ground cover that will survive not only mowing but also foot traffic.

The peaceful grounds of Evergreen Cemetery were established in 1907 to serve the rapidly expanding Tucson community. Today, this beautiful setting for your loved one’s final resting place is a touchpoint for future generations to reflect and remember. Call to learn more about us, or visit the About Us page to schedule a tour.

The Healing Power of Community

The loss of a loved one is a deeply personal, traumatic event. Each person grieves differently, and because of that, grief can be extremely isolating. There’s often a temptation to shut oneself off from others, cocooning to try to heal. Yet, separating yourself from others is not the best way to work through a loss.

The reality is that grief shared is grief lessened. The presence of others can create a safe space for you to grieve and get stronger so you can begin to heal. Your family may provide this haven. It may be your community of friends, but it can also be a grief support group. Others who are experiencing something similar to what you’re feeling can help you find your feet through camaraderie that makes you feel like you’re not alone.

Even the act of reaching out to others can be healing. Often, we turn inward, and the pain spirals and becomes more intense. When we look outward, finding a way to help someone else, it takes the focus off our own pain and reminds us that everyone has suffered a loss of some kind and needs support. That’s the beauty of community: other people want to be there for you, and you have the power to be there for others.

In our busy, modern world, we can tend to rush past our feelings. We bury pain and ignore grief, believing that if we just keep moving, we can blot it out and pass it by. In truth, there’s something very comforting about the traditional rituals surrounding death and loss. The memorial service, with friends and family members gathered to honor the life that was lived, can be extremely meaningful. The support of the community afterward, as people rally to provide meals and comfort, can also be a powerful healing force.

Sometimes, the path to healing begins with an end-of-life ceremony, which can take many different forms. In some cultures, people spend time with their loved one after death, bathing, dressing and preparing the body for burial or cremation. Others sit with their grief, in solidarity with one another. Still others choose to tell stories and sing songs, sharing their memories of the person who has died to lessen each other’s pain. The power of this communal mourning is strong and can set friends and family on the path to healing.

At Evergreen Mortuary, we work with you to create a life-honoring tribute as unique as your loved one. For more than a century, we have served the community, caring for families from all walks of life. Call us today at (520) 399-6652 and let us help you create the tribute your loved one would have wanted in a way that embraces your community of support.

Grieving a Loss: There's No Expiration Date for Pain

Losing a loved one is never easy, and grief is different for every person who has suffered a loss. Although there are some commonalities, no one can truly know what someone else is going through, so no one can really predict when the pain will lessen. Some people “bounce back” quickly, while for others, the healing process takes a long time.

  • It’s important to refrain from telling someone that it’s time to move on or get over it. There’s no timetable for grief, and everyone’s recovery time is different. Some people start to feel better in a matter of weeks or months, while for others the bereavement period can go on for years. When you set a deadline for someone in mourning, it doesn’t help that person to learn to live through the loss. It’s insensitive, and it ignores the fact that grief often resurfaces on birthdays, holidays and other special days.
  • Sometimes grief changes instead of resolving. Life will never go back to normal for someone who has suffered a loss. It just becomes a new normal because the grief never goes away completely. It can shift, though, as a person learns to treasure the memories that used to be painful. By cherishing their loved one’s memory and honoring the legacy of the life that was lived, they’re able to set their grief aside and move forward.
  • What to do when grief becomes a cause for concern. Sometimes, people experience what’s known as complicated grief. When that happens, they become stuck in their pain, unable to function practically. Grief becomes a lifestyle, and the person may lash out in anger or have difficulty eating and sleeping. If you or someone you love seems to be experiencing complicated grief, it may be time to seek professional help.

If you can’t seem to get past your grief, our support team can help. We’re always there for you, no matter what time of day or day of the week you need us. Online, you’ll find counseling services, group grief support and interactive videos. We can also provide aftercare for those who have suffered a loss, and help to find a support group or counselor. Visit us online or call (520) 399-6652 to learn how we can help.

How to Plan a Life-Honoring Tribute for Your Loved One

For many people, the idea of a planning a funeral is overwhelming. Perhaps remembering the somber events of their childhood — where they sat in stiff clothing, unsure of what to say and afraid of doing the wrong thing — they put off even thinking about funerals until suddenly they are faced with an immediate need.

At that point, it can become a stressful situation during an already difficult time.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s funerals are often more like life-honoring celebrations than the formal events of the past.

You can plan a tribute to your loved one that honors the life that was lived, and helps friends and family members begin to heal. Your funeral director will know just how to help you, but here are some points to consider:

  • Think about what made your loved one unique. If this person had a particularly meaningful job, that can be incorporated into the service, but much of your inspiration can come from your loved one’s musical tastes, hobbies, favorite movies, cherished mementos and so on.
  • Consider the tone your loved one would have enjoyed. Some people want their funerals to be solemn affairs, while others want an air of celebration. Some want readings of favorite texts, and some want a room filled with music. If you’re planning the service, you probably knew this person better than most. Picture your loved one in the room and ask yourself if he or she would be enjoying the service.
  • Involve the people who matter most. Family members may have their own ideas about how they’d like to be involved. Although the ideas presented to the funeral director should be unified, it doesn’t hurt to take suggestions as you’re making a plan about how people can participate in the service.
  • Find out about signature services offered by the funeral home. Sometimes, you can find the perfect gesture to make the service truly memorable. Perhaps it’s a DVD tribute or a dove release. Maybe it’s the type of vehicle that takes your loved one to the cemetery. Maybe it’s cremation jewelry that the family will treasure or an American flag in a case, to honor a veteran. Talk to your funeral director about what they have to offer, and choose a funeral home that meets your needs.
  • Consider preplanning for yourself. One way to alleviate the stress of planning a funeral is to plan it yourself in advance! Preplanning allows you to create the life-honoring tribute you’d like, and ensures that your family members will know how to carry out your wishes.

At Evergreen Mortuary, we believe a funeral should be a loving event that celebrates the choices your loved one made and the relationship you shared, while honoring the memory of a life well lived. Call us today at (520) 399-6652 to learn more about all we have to offer, or drop by for a visit to see our beautiful property.

Where Can I Bury Cremated Remains?

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Today, many people choose cremation over traditional burial because of the versatility that this process allows. For example, cremation offers many options for final disposition. If you’re interested in burial, then keep reading to learn some of the locations where you can bury cremated remains.

In a Cremation Garden
Today, many cemeteries set aside an area of their grounds specifically for the burial of cremated remains. Often referred to as cremation gardens or urn gardens, these locations can be an ideal option for someone who prefers cremation over traditional burial, but would still like to bury the cremated remains. Also, some cemeteries offer unique features within their cremation gardens or on their grounds, which allow for the interment of cremated remains in an outdoor setting, for example in the form of cremation benches and cremation boulders.

In a Cemetery Plot
If you prefer the idea of burying your loved one’s cremated remains in a traditional cemetery setting rather than in a cremation garden, then purchasing a standard cemetery plot in which to bury the urn may be a good option for you. This choice may also be ideal for anyone who wishes to have their own cremated remains buried with those of their loved one in the future. Because urn vaults take up less space than traditional burial vaults, the burial of more than one urn vault in a single cemetery plot is permitted by some cemeteries.

Whether you need at-need or pre-need cremation services in Tucson, Evergreen Mortuary & Cemetery can help. To get in touch with us, please call (520) 888-7470.

The Emotional and Psychological Benefits of Holding a Funeral Service

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Funeral services offer bereaved families a way to honor those they have lost. However, in addition to acting as a meaningful tribute, these ceremonies may benefit the family and friends of the deceased emotionally and psychologically. Please continue reading for more on this subject.

A Source of Social Support
After a losing a loved one, a bereaved individual may feel overwhelmed with grief, and socializing may be the last thing on his or her mind. Nonetheless, the support that can be gained from family, friends, and the community during a funeral service may offer a bereaved individual much needed emotional and social support. In this way, a funeral may help someone who is grieving cope with the loss of a loved one.

A Chance to Share Memories
Another way in which a funeral service can be emotionally and psychologically beneficial is by providing the surviving family members and friends with an opportunity to share memories with one another. Besides the obvious advantages of such exchanges, they may help grieving individuals to diminish more painful memories by shedding light on the happier ones. For example, if the deceased had a long struggle with illness before passing, then those who were close to her may have difficult memories of her in this state. However, by exchanging stories and experiences with one another, surviving family and friends may be better able to leave the ceremony thinking of their loved one in the way she was when in good health.

An Opportunity to Say Goodbye
Everyone grieves in his or her own way, and there is no right or wrong way to feel after losing a loved one. Also, grief can continue to be present and changing well after the ceremony is over. However, many people find that holding a funeral service helps them say “goodbye” to the person that they lost, an act which may provide some level of comfort and closure.

Evergreen Mortuary & Cemetery can assist you with arranging a personalized memorial and meaningful funeral service near Tucson. For more information, please contact us today at (520) 888-7470.

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